Monday, December 6, 2010

It is Definitely Starting to Look a Lot Like Christmas!

I FINALLY have my decorations and tree up for Christmas.  Not we just have to trim the tree and we will be done!

I have been very spending a lot of time this year thinking about how much time, energy and money we can put into Christmas decorating, shopping, etc., and how biblical all of it really is.    Don't get me wrong, I LOVE Christmas and I certainly love celebrating the birth of my Saviour, but I have really been contemplating on how our family spends our Christmas this year.   We have always tried to give a lot of our time and resources  at Christmas to those less fortunate, but this year it just still doesn't seem to be enough to me.   If we are buying more for ourselves and our kids than we are giving away to others - especially giving the news of our Savior's birth, then are we really doing what Jesus would have us do?   Just something to think on this year.   It is so easy to fall into the commercialism of Christmas, but this year I think we will just slow down, enjoy time with friends and family and not worry so much what the decorations look like or how much we spend.   I think we will try and get back to the basics.    How 'bout you?

"If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth." 1 John 3:17-18

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Great Expectations!

Within 24 hours of committing to start blogging again, I had two job interviews, a job offer and a very bad cold!   (Oh and let's not forget Chris' 40th birthday and Thanksgiving!)   Needless to say, this is my first post in a week.   Such is life......    

But I did did want to jump on here quickly and post a few things I am so incredibly grateful for this year:

A husband who loves me and three healthy, good kids!  :)
A new job that I love!
A sister, brother-in-law, nieces and nephew who are preparing the Thanksgiving feast!
My dad living here in Winchester with us.
New friends and old ones too.
A roof over my head, shoes on my feet and food to eat.

And this year I am especially am thankful for "contentment".  

Praying all of you feel peace and contentment in your hearts as you gather around your Thanksgiving tables tomorrow.  Praying that you take every moment of it in - relish the smiles, the smells of yummy food and the laughter shared with those you love.  Praying that you feel much gratitude in your hearts!    Love and a big fat hug, Melissa

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Letting Go of the Wheel.

not sure if you have ever had the experience of teaching a child to drive, but i have.  it is one of the most challenging things I have been through in my life, honestly.  In a nutshell, it is called "letting go of the wheel".

jacob drove himself to school this morning (as usual).   i was sitting in the passenger seat trying not to overreact at his every move, and it hit me that this was such a perfect example of my relationship with Christ.

we say that we are going to give God control, but the honestly, do we?   no.   most of the time we sit in the passenger seat saying "slow down" or "speed up" or "don't get too close to that car".   of course, we do this in order to protect ourselves or others.   but, ultimately not we aren't trusting the Driver.

there is a crazy point you reach in your journey with Christ where you have to let go of the wheel.   it is hard.   it might put you in danger and you might crash.  but, the point is, do you trust the Driver?

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Repost from June 2010

FRIDAY, JUNE 4, 2010

The Brevity

Some of you know my story, some of you don't.  But it occurred to me this morning that it is really good for us to look back sometimes at where we have been so that we can reevaluate where we are headed.  I also believe it is good cleansing for the soul to share where we have been and the things we have dealt with in life.  So, with that said, let me give you some background.  I was raised in Chattanooga, TN by my stay-at-home Mom and Army serving Dad.   My parents sacrificed a lot so that I would be able to attend Christian schools and I am so fortunate for that.   My brother and sister were 12 and 10 years older than me and I was the "baby" of the family.  From the time that I can remember, I always felt SO much love in my heart for others.  I remember thinking that I wasn't normal because I loved people with such a fierce passion.  I was also very insecure, due to many different reasons and this eventually led to my "falling in with the bad crowd" during high school.   I was a people pleaser and I loved to make people laugh - I wanted them to like me.

When I was 20 years old my Mother suffered a massive heart attack and died.   My world was blown apart.  I was devastated.   We weren't on the best terms when she passed away and this obviously was a crucial point in my life that defined me.......shaped me.  I was angry with God and I walked away from Him completely.

Fast forward 5 years and my first child was born.  I don't know why, but it has been my observation through the years that the birth of a child brings many "prodigals" back home to Christ.  And that is exactly what happened with me.  I wanted Christ again, I wanted Him for my children.

Three years ago, my brother (an alcoholic) suffered a fall that left him quadriplegic.  He lived in Chattanooga and at this point we were living here in Winchester and thus started an almost year-long process of driving back and forth to try and make sure he was receiving adequate care, etc.  It was excruciating.  I loved my brother dearly.  He had such a sweet heart, but let his addiction rule his words quite often, but God gave me the eyes to always see his heart and not his actions.   In 2008 we received a call that my brother had choked while in the nursing home he had just been moved to.   He had to be airlifted from that facility to downtown Chattanooga and as a result was without oxygen for over 20 minutes.  We rushed to Chattanooga and our family had to make the decision to take him off of life support.  As his caregiver, I had to sign the papers to do so.   Once again, life changing......life shaping.   I held his hand as he died and as he slipped away I wondered once again - "why God?".    So, I decided to seek Christ like I had never sought Him before.  If God really did love me like his own child then I wanted to know him more about Him, figure out what I believed and get some healing.

And this is why I share this very brief version of my 40 years here on earth - God is good!  He IS faithful.  He can heal you heart.  He can make you whole.  He has done it for me - I am living proof.  I am a testimony of His love.    Is my life perfect? - well, heck no!  Do I still struggle with sin and disbelief? - well, yeah!  But I have a peace.  A peace and joy that surpasses all understanding.   And learning about and getting to know my God has brought me to places I thought I would never be.  Like taking seminary classes and doing mission trips.   I guarantee you no one thought that was where this girl has headed!

So my question for you is this?  Have you given God a try?  Have you read His Word and tried him out?  If so, why not?  What would it hurt?  For you see, this life is brief.  The brevity of it is overwhelming, trust me I have lived it.

So it fell by the wayside.....

My blogging has absolutely fallen to the wayside this year.   Just one of those seasons where blogging had to take backseat to my family, service in the Church and my jobs.   But, I am determined to start gearing up for another year of blog-madness.   I would really love to be able to start writing devotionals again and help come along women and encourage them in their walk with Christ.  One thing I have learned this year ( that I knew in my head but had not completely settled into my heart ) is that God really honestly never does waste a hurt!  Those of you who have faithfully followed my blog have seen me write about taking care of and eventually losing my brother, watched me battle with bouts of depression at times, stood along beside me as I felt God's call for me to ministry and then ultimately, this year, try to discern where in the world He wants to use me.   Well, guess what?   I am pretty sure he wants to use me right where I am at.  :)   It isn't difficult.  I think what is difficult for me is that I love serving in so many different capacities and I have to decide on one and stick with it.   So, please join with me in prayer as I get "settled in my skin" about God using me where He has planted me for right now.   I ask you to bear with me as I start getting back into the practice of daily (or maybe bi-daily) blogging and would love for you send me ideas or feedback.   Love to you all and I can't wait to see where 2011 takes us all!


John 3: 16-17  "This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn't go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again.



Thursday, September 30, 2010

Passing along, Jesus saw a man at his work collecting taxes. His name was Matthew. Jesus said, "Come along with me." Matthew stood up and followed him.
Later when Jesus was eating supper at Matthew's house with his close followers, a lot of disreputable characters came and joined them. When the Pharisees saw him keeping this kind of company, they had a fit, and lit into Jesus' followers. "What kind of example is this from your Teacher, acting cozy with crooks and riffraff?" Jesus, overhearing, shot back, "Who needs a doctor: the healthy or the sick? Go figure out what this Scripture means: 'I'm after mercy, not religion.' I'm here to invite outsiders, not coddle insiders."   Matthew 9: 9-13
  

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Respost from September 2007 - Sacred Marriage

I am reading a wonderful book titled "Sacred Marriage" by Gary Thomas. I highly recommend it. It is very well written and a fairly easy read. I wanted to share an excerpt with you this morning. 

"One of the best wedding gifts God gave you was a full-length mirror called your spouse. Had there been a card attached, it would have read "Here's to helping you discover what you are really like." quote by Gary and Betsy Ricucci.

"What is humility? Fenelon tells us "It is a certain honesty and childlike willingness to acknowledge our faults, to recover from them and to submit to the advice of experienced people; these will be solid useful virtues, adapted to your sanctification." We must not enter marriage predominantly to be fulfilled, emotionally satisfied or romantically charged , but rather to become more like Jesus Christ. We must embrace the reality of having our flaws exposed to our partner, and thereby having them exposed to us as well. Sin never seems quite as shocking when it is known only to us; when we see how it looks or sounds to another it is magnified ten times over. The single or celibate can "hide" frustration by removing himself or herself from the situation, but the married man or women has no true refuge. It is hard to hide when you share the same bed.."

Isn't that the truth? We all are sinful creatures, but tend in marriage to point the finger or get into a pattern of blaming our partner. We should first examine ourselves and see where our own sin lies. Whether it be a critical spirit, an angry heart, addiction, etc., we need to first focus on our own sin and repentance because our job is to become more like Christ. We are not in control of our partners' behavior. We are ultimately only responsible for ourselves when we stand before Christ on judgment day. Trust me, I lived the life of blaming another for many years. Guess what, it didn't change anything. Maybe the problem lies within ourselves.......

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Just a little humor.

Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church's morals, kept sticking her nose into other people's business….

Several members did not approve of her extra curricular activities , but feared her enough to maintain their silence…

She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town's
only bar one afternoon...

She emphatically told Frank (and several others) that everyone seeing it there
WOULD KNOW WHAT HE WAS DOING!

Frank , a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away…

He didn't explain, defend, or deny…

He said nothing….

Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred's house ...

walked home

.....and left it there all night !!!

Monday, September 20, 2010

Empty Promises

Great new sermon series from Pete Wilson at Crosspoint on "Empty Promises".  This series is about idolatry and how to identify the idols we have in our own lives.   Guess what?  We all have them..........

Click here for sermon:
Empty Promises

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Quick Update from the ever-crazy Brown House

I hardly know if I am coming or going and sanity is something I have long ago given up hope on.  Emma is cheering this year, Abby and Emma both are playing soccer (practice everyday and sometimes 2 games a week) and all three of the kids are very involved with church - not to mention school.    I know that one day I will look back and miss these days, but right now I am just praying to make it through them.  We have all remained healthy so far this school year and I am praising God for that!  As a matter of fact, I am trying to make it a daily practice to look around and give thanks for all the good things in my life.   Why not? - it sure is a lot better than dwelling on the negatives!  I am still trying to work on my own school - which seems to fall to the bottom of the list most days, but still wanting to work towards completing my Religious Studies degree at Berea.  Chris is traveling a lot these days and I am co-leading a Wednesday night study at my church and will be hosting a girls only study this Fall for the girls in Youth at Winchester Cumberland Presbyterian.  That is my love.  If I could study God's Word and/or lead studies every day I think I would die a very happy woman.   It has taken me a long time to realize my calling, but finally I know that I just love to help others in their journey to study the Scriptures.   

Praying that this post finds all in good health and in constant pursuit of their journey with Christ.   Love to you all - Melissa









Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke? Is it not to share your food with the hungry and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter – when you see the naked, to clothe him, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? Then your light will break forth like the dawn and your healing will quickly appear; then righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the Lord will be your rear guard.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

A Fig Tree Can't Bear Olives

The Fig Tree

We have been going through a situation in our now "previous" church that has caused some great division and dissension amongst the family of believers.   Needless to say, this has mad me very sad.  It seems like this "thing" has grown legs and sprouted tentacles and is entangling people.    Rumors are being spread and there has been division caused between people who love each other and have such good, sweet hearts.   It is so sad to see the body of Christ act the way I have witnessed it acting the past few weeks.  But, God is good and I know he is working all things together for the good of His people and for His glory.   Yet, it is still a hard thing to witness.

A sweet friend of mine reminded me this morning of the following verse and I thought I would share it with you.  It comes from the book of James, chapter 3, verses 8-18:






New International Version

8but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.


9With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be! 11Can both fresh water and salta water flow from the same spring? 12My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
Two Kinds of Wisdom
13Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. 16For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
17But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.

My prayer for  all of those still drudging through this situation is for them be peace-loving, full of mercy, bearers of good fruit,  impartial and sincere.   You see, when we align ourselves with Scripture and what God's Word says, there can be no room for division - He will show you the truth and the light and, in turn, you will know where you are supposed to be, whether that be at your current church or another.   He is truth and light.   He will reveal Himself to you and show you Truth.  No darkness can dwell within us or around us  if we are in His will.    Oh if only people would we humble their hearts then God would turn His gaze upon them and bless them.    Lord, help us to be humble..........   
Peace ~ Melissa



Sunday, August 22, 2010

What Have You Learned?

Is it just me or were our parents right?   I sure do remember mine telling me to enjoy my childhood - that it wouldn't last long.  Boy,  they were right about that!  I also remember them telling me they knew more about life because they had lived it, and I remember thinking I didn't want to know that they did.  You know why? -  because I "knew" more. I was smart, I was educated and  I was going to change things!  I was going to be different!  I was going to be a better parent, a better spouse and a better person for my community.  I was going to help change things, but first and foremost I was going to have a much more exciting life!  I was going to go places, do things, and never, EVER think like my parents did.  

And now I am 40.  I am married.  I have three kids.  I haven't  "changed" things much that I know of, except a lot of diapers and my hair color.  And, to beat the band, I find myself thinking and saying the same ridiculous things my parents did, except they don't sound so ridiculous anymore.  They sort of ring true.   And the ringing in my ears of the "truth" of their words, has a certain bite.   No matter how true, there is still the bite!

But, the bite for me, honestly and much to my dismay, is not that they were right.  Oh no! the bite for me is that I know they were right.  You see, I miss the slow pace and smallness and security of the world I grew up in!  I miss the fact that without a doubt I could meet up with my best friend on our bicycles every day after school.  I miss going out to the garden with my mom during the summer to pick the ripest tomato for lunch (yes, that was our lunch, along with some slices of white bread and mayonnaise.)   I miss the fact that I knew we were going to sit down as a family every night and eat dinner, and I even miss the fact that I had to clean EVERY Saturday morning without fail.   My most favorite is the fact that no matter what, we were going to go to church every Sunday morning as a family. Those were some of my best memories.

Our world is so vastly different today.   I have given up any chances of a career for 15 years in order to be at home with my kids and STILL can't seem to find the time to make sure we have dinner together EVERY evening.  As hard as I try, I still can't seem to keep up with the pace of our lives.   As educated and willful as I have always been against such a fast-paced culture, I still can't help but be sucked in!   And honestly, I can't even at this point put into words what I feel inside.

All I know is this - Lord, help us.  Help us to slow down.  Help us to live simply.  Help us to go visit with someone on a Sunday afternoon without thinking about where we need to be next.   Help us to sit on our porch and talk with our kids and tell them how things "used to be"..............

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Are You Joking Me?



Last week a friend of mine was telling me about a lady at our church who makes prayer shawls.  She told me what a ministry it was for this lady and how much comfort and love people feel when they receive one.  They are not "magic" nor do they make you "closer to God", but they are a symbol of positioning ourselves in prayer and reminding ourselves that we are covered by God.  

Long story short, I wanted one.  I thought "that is so cool!".   I wanted to ask the lady at our church for one, but didn't want to impose upon her, so the thought left my mind........until today!   No joke, look what was on my porch when I got home.   I told NO ONE about wanting one of these, but guess what???  God heard me!   He loves me so much he sent me a prayer shawl from the wife of a co-worker of Chris who lives in Knoxville, Tennessee.   I laughed out loud as I opened the box!!!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Unshaken

Over the past week I have had many people ask me how I have remained so positive during the health issues I have been facing.   I sat down tonight and tried to put some thought into that.    Why have I not been fearful?   Why am I not spending time worrying about the outcome?   Let me tell you why.   I BELIEVE God.   Very simple.  I believe His Word and I believe in Him.

Let me tell you, getting to this place in my life has been a long hard road - and it came at some very big expenses and tolls on my marriage and family, but I wouldn't trade it for the world, because this is what I know - God is faithful.   No matter the outcome, He has a plan for you and for me!   So tonight I leave with you two passages of Scripture that are dear to me and I also pray that if you are feeling discouraged or down-trodden, that you turn you eyes upon Jesus.  Call upon Him.  He will answer - I promise.

II Corinthians  4:8 
We are experiencing trouble on every side, but are not crushed; we are perplexed, but not driven to despair;  we are persecuted, but not abandoned; we are knocked down, but not destroyed.


Psalm 62: 1-8
1 My soul finds rest in God alone;
       my salvation comes from him.



 2 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
       he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.


 3 How long will you assault a man?
       Would all of you throw him down—
       this leaning wall, this tottering fence?


 4 They fully intend to topple him
       from his lofty place;
       they take delight in lies.
       With their mouths they bless,
       but in their hearts they curse.
       Selah


 5 Find rest, O my soul, in God alone;
       my hope comes from him.


 6 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
       he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.


 7 My salvation and my honor depend on God [a] ;
       he is my mighty rock, my refuge.


 8 Trust in him at all times, O people;
       pour out your hearts to him,
       for God is our refuge. 

      
Selah

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

The Day God Whacked Me Over the Head! :)

So, in my usual hurried state, I left work last Friday at 1 p.m. got into my car to head to get some lunch for the kids and then rush home to start work at my second job by 2 p.m.   I got into the car, started it, drove to the edge of the parking lot to pull out onto the main road here in Winchester and BAM - cold sweat drenched my body, I felt like I was going to throw up, and the my left arm went completely tingly and partially numb.   WOW - let me tell you it was a scary feeling.  I immediately called Chris and stayed on the phone with him until I could drive myself to our home.    I went inside, told Abby something was not right and asked her to call her Dad back while I changed into more comfortable clothes and tried to lie down.   Chris in turn called my Dad and he came over and immediately took me to the hospital.  While at the E.R. I felt worse and thought I was going to pass out and also noticed that my left leg then went tingly and numb and that I was having trouble talking.  The left side of my face was drooping.   It was at that point I looked at my Dad and said "Daddy I am scared I might be having a stroke" and he replied with "yes, I think so too, but I didn't want to say anything."    I was monitored and given Ativan (in case it was an anxiety attack), taken for a CT scan and had an EKG - all results were normal, but still things were not right.  I was admitted to the hospital for monitoring overnight and then released the next day on a regimen of aspirin until I can get into a local cardiologist.  It was decided that I had suffered a TIA - even though they are fairly rare at my age and I don't have many of the factors that would predispose me to such an event.   A TIA is sort of a "warning stroke" - many people call them "mini-strokes".   They manifest all symptoms of a stroke, but do not cause any actual tissue damage in the brain - which is a very good thing.  Bad thing is that most people who suffer one, have a very high risk of suffering an actual stroke within the next year - sometimes within the next week.  

Now on a positive note - God has been so faithful to show me many things this past weekend as I have had the time to quietly listen and seek His voice.   I knew I needed to slow down.  Actually I had already withdrawn from most of my volunteer work at church and was looking at ways to minimize my work a little in order to lessen my stress.  With a husband who travels and 3 kids, it is very hard to hold down 2 jobs and manage the children's coming and goings to school and sport activities.   For those of you who know me well, you have probably heard me say over the past 6 months that I have been trying to discern God's will for me right now and where he wants me in ministry.  You have also heard me say many times "I wish he would write in on a big white board in the sky for me so I didn't have to try and figure it out on my own"!   HA!  It occurred to me as I was sitting with a dear friend on my porch yesterday morning, that he did just what I asked Him to do - only He wrote it on the white board and then whacked me over the head with it!  I love it! It made me laugh out loud.  You see, I am a fairly strong willed person and although I had been trying to lower my activity level and slow down in order to figure out where God needs me to serve him, I was only slowing down "just enough" to suit myself and still be able to do the things I wanted to do.   Well, my friends, it seems God has something entirely different in order for my life.   So, as I sit here this morning with time to blog, I ask for your prayers for my physical recovery but most importantly that I will now sit quietly and listen to what God has for me to do and obey His call WHEREVER it may be He is leading me.   He is so faithful and good to us and He knew exactly what it would take for Melissa to stop and listen.    So, I sit quietly before Him this morning and listen and wait upon Him to speak........

Thursday, August 5, 2010

That feeling....

Is it only me or does this time of year evoke a feeling of new beginnings?  As the kids start their preparations of going back to school and we get all our supplies in order, I always feel the need to clean, organize and get a calendar together  detailing all our different schedules.    It makes me feel like somehow in control of what the school year brings.  

Control......what a word.    Let's think about control -

God is ultimately in control..........
We can't control other people - nor should we have the desire to.......
We can't control many circumstances, i.e. sickness, death, etc.......

But there is one thing that we are called to control and that is ourselves.   We are to have control over our own bodies and minds.    We are to control our anger, our eating, our drinking, and especially our tongues.   So, as we start this school year off tomorrow, I am making it my goal to to focus on controlling my situations or those around me - my husbands, my kids, etc., but to concentrate on what Christ tells me to concentrate on:   SELF-CONTROL.   Many people are in places of bitterness, resentment, anger or depression because they try to control things that are out of their control.  Wives want to change their husbands.  Moms want to change their kids.   Husbands want to change their wives.   Then, when this doesn't work, people are left wondering why.    The reason is because we are called only to control ourselves.    Today I encourage us all to take a look at our own lives and see what we might to be rein back into control.  Whatever it is, there is one things that remains true - through Christ we can bring our lives back into order and back under control.   His grace is never ending!    Thank you God!

"Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city."

Friday, July 30, 2010

It's That Time of Year

Well my friends, school is getting ready to start back up and I think we are just about prepared here at the Brown House, except for the fact that I have been "itching" to get  more organized!   This is usually where I call in my sister, but this year I think I am going to try and do this thing myself.   I am looking for ideas on how to get my laundry done more efficiently and sorted and distributed to all three kids in a more organized manner.  After it gets to their room, it's their problem!  :)    I am also looking for weekly menu ideas and lunch ideas for the kids to take to school.  If you have any ideas, please share them with me!

On a deeper level, we are in the midst of making some decisions regarding our church and whether or not the Lord may be calling us to another place of worship.  Please be in prayer for our family as this is a very big decision for us and not one that we take lightly.   As we step out in faith regarding the calling God has on our family and how we are to be serving him, I would ask that you be in prayer for us - that we will hear God's voice clearly on this subject.   This I know, my God is faithful and has a wonderful plan for our lives and that is what I am standing on today.     Love - Melissa

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Fall Bible Study Announcement


Ladies,

It was decided at last night's meeting that we would continue meeting this Fall on Tuesday nights at my house at 7 p.m.    Below is a link to the book I was talking about - 'Life's Healing Choices'.   This is a book and study guide combination which I can purchase through Amazon for about $23.00 per person.   It is an 8 week study and an 8 week commitment on working towards healing in any area of your life in which you struggle.   This is a great opportunity to invite a friend and also a great opportunity to not only get healing, but also train ourselves how to help others in difficult situations.   


If you are interested in joining our group this Fall, please email me or call me at 931.307.0760 and let me know for sure that you will be attending so that I can make sure and purchase enough books.   Our first meeting will be held on Tuesday, August 31st!

Feel free to forward this email to anyone you think may be interested in joining our group this Fall.    I will say this, this small group of ladies has truly been a blessing in my life and I pray that you would consider joining us as we press forward in growing to be more like Christ.  

How Are We Supposed to Speak??

What does God say to us about how we speak, yes that means in our homes, to our family, to everyone else around us?    Well, here is a little blerb I found.   And guess what, God means what He says in the Bible.  Sometimes I think one of the biggest sins we deal with his how we speak.    Does your life speak words of life or death?


Speak to edify. In the same Bible verse 8 of Philippians 4, Paul says that we should speak words of virtue. Virtuous words are words of excellence and value, words that produce good fruits, that build up the speaker, listener and everyone else.

Speak words of praise ---- words that praise the great works of God. Talk about His great creation in all of his wonderful glory. Talk about God's Work on earth today ---- the Work that's spreading the good news of the Kingdom of God. Speak words of praise about the good in other people. Encourage others to do their best. Comfort other people when they are discouraged.

In short, use your tongue to bring life ---- not death!

Friday, July 23, 2010

Finally, I have the chance for a quick post!   We have been sick, been doing the summer stuff and just living the crazy life and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world!  

I have been mulling over some things as of late, the primary thing being that we MUST start living the Christian life out through LOVE.   It is the number one commandment - to love the Lord with all your heart and soul and mind and to love your neighbor as yourself.   I find that so many people call themselves Christians and do the "church" thing but aren't truly living out love in their day to day lives.   I am completely guilty of this, so I am not trying to cast condemnation, but come on people, do we really believe what we say we do?   Do we love those who don't look like us, don't have the money we have, might be down and out, might smell bad or offend us?   If not, then we might need to reevaluate whether or not we love Jesus Christ.   This is something I am challenged by daily.  I pray that we will ask the Lord daily to change our hearts, to renew our minds and transform us into His image.   

Here is a great video by Beth Moore from this week.   Hope you enjoy!   Love to all!

The Guarded Heart - Beth Moore

Friday, June 25, 2010

Sorry for the delay

It has taken me quite awhile to recover from our trip to Pine Ridge!  Exhausted isn't even the word!   So, here are some pics and I hope you enjoy.  We had a wonderful time serving others as a family and I pray that we get to return next year, as it was very hard to leave the kids (as usual) this year!  Love,  Melissa

Saturday, June 12, 2010

We have arrived!

We are resting up in Hot Springs, SD tonight before heading onto the Reservation tomorrow morning!   Had another good 8 hour day of travel and I must just say - I am SO glad to be out of the car!    Hey, how about the pic of the truck from Estill Springs, TN?  We passed that truck in mid-Nebraska.   I am fine sitting in the hotel room the rest of the night getting my VBS stuff ready.  Chris, of course, wants to drive the 25 miles over to Wyoming to turn around and drive back to the hotel so he can say he has been to the state of Wyoming!  HA!  :)   Here are some pics from the last 24 hours - God has blessed us with great travel! 

Friday, June 11, 2010

Well, Lincoln we have arrived!

We rolled into Lincoln, Nebraska tonight and it is such a pretty city.  And OF COURSE we had to eat at King Kong's and I had the best gyro of my life - no joke!   Love it!  Tomorrow we have about 8.5 more hours of driving tomorrow before we get to South Dakota.   We are so excited to hit the Rez and can't wait to share many photos and stories with you when we return.     Thank you all again for supporting us with your contributions and prayers.   Love,  The Browns

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

SOUTH DAKOTA BOUND

Well, guys we load up Thursday afternoon, pick Jacob up from Synodic camp at 7 p.m. and head to St. Louis.   After sleeping in (hopefully), we will drive to Lincoln, Nebraska for one night then head on out to the Rez.   Please keep us in your prayers as we go love on the Lakota Sioux children and bring them some hope, love, joy and the Gospel of Jesus Christ.   I am so excited and can't wait to share our experiences with you.  I plan to blog along the way, Lord willing.   Remember two things - I love you, but most importantly, God loves you.

Melissa B.

Friday, June 4, 2010

The Brevity

Some of you know my story, some of you don't.  But it occurred to me this morning that it is really good for us to look back sometimes at where we have been so that we can reevaluate where we are headed.  I also believe it is good cleansing for the soul to share where we have been and the things we have dealt with in life.  So, with that said, let me give you some background.  I was raised in Chattanooga, TN by my stay-at-home Mom and Army serving Dad.   My parents sacrificed a lot so that I would be able to attend Christian schools and I am so fortunate for that.   My brother and sister were 12 and 10 years older than me and I was the "baby" of the family.  From the time that I can remember, I always felt SO much love in my heart for others.  I remember thinking that I wasn't normal because I loved people with such a fierce passion.  I was also very insecure, due to many different reasons and this eventually led to my "falling in with the bad crowd" during high school.   I was a people pleaser and I loved to make people laugh - I wanted them to like me.

When I was 20 years old my Mother suffered a massive heart attack and died.   My world was blown apart.  I was devastated.   We weren't on the best terms when she passed away and this obviously was a crucial point in my life that defined me.......shaped me.  I was angry with God and I walked away from Him completely.

Fast forward 5 years and my first child was born.  I don't know why, but it has been my observation through the years that the birth of a child brings many "prodigals" back home to Christ.  And that is exactly what happened with me.  I wanted Christ again, I wanted Him for my children.

Three years ago, my brother (an alcoholic) suffered a fall that left him quadriplegic.  He lived in Chattanooga and at this point we were living here in Winchester and thus started an almost year-long process of driving back and forth to try and make sure he was receiving adequate care, etc.  It was excruciating.  I loved my brother dearly.  He had such a sweet heart, but let his addiction rule his words quite often, but God gave me the eyes to always see his heart and not his actions.   In 2008 we received a call that my brother had choked while in the nursing home he had just been moved to.   He had to be airlifted from that facility to downtown Chattanooga and as a result was without oxygen for over 20 minutes.  We rushed to Chattanooga and our family had to make the decision to take him off of life support.  As his caregiver, I had to sign the papers to do so.   Once again, life changing......life shaping.   I held his hand as he died and as he slipped away I wondered once again - "why God?".    So, I decided to seek Christ like I had never sought Him before.  If God really did love me like his own child then I wanted to know him more about Him, figure out what I believed and get some healing.

And this is why I share this very brief version of my 40 years here on earth - God is good!  He IS faithful.  He can heal you heart.  He can make you whole.  He has done it for me - I am living proof.  I am a testimony of His love.    Is my life perfect? - well, heck no!  Do I still struggle with sin and disbelief? - well, yeah!  But I have a peace.  A peace and joy that surpasses all understanding.   And learning about and getting to know my God has brought me to places I thought I would never be.  Like taking seminary classes and doing mission trips.   I guarantee you no one thought that was where this girl has headed!

So my question for you is this?  Have you given God a try?  Have you read His Word and tried him out?  If so, why not?  What would it hurt?  For you see, this life is brief.  The brevity of it is overwhelming, trust me I have lived it.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  Galatians 6:9.

Monday, May 31, 2010

Pruning

I was outside today trimming a HUGE out-of-control ornamental grass that grows in our front yard.  Those who drive past our house know exactly what I am talking about.  ;)

I forgot to cut it back last year like I do every fall and what the plant had become this Spring is really unexplainable.   It was just huge stalks of dead leaves and barely any new growth was able to make it through.  I had to cut back the big huge tall dead stalks and then get down to the middle of the plant and rake out all the dead and rotted (from all of the rain) dead grass that had become stuck and tangled up in the plant.   

WOW - is this not exactly how God works on us if we allow him?    We often forget to run to our Savior for confession and repentance and eventually get covered up in our sin to the point that we are just one big stuck and tangled mess with nothing "living" growing from our lives.  So, my experience is that we eventually get bogged down by all the dead growth in our life, which produces nothing and give us no joy, and realize that we must do some personal pruning in order to truly live again - to produce the fruits that God would have us produce.   God is so faithful to prune us if we honestly go to Him with a realization of our sin, see the sin for what it is and bring it to His feet, lay it down and ask him "Lord, prune me."    Not that this has every been an enjoyable experience in my life - no, in fact, it is painful, but on the other side of it, God brings us joy, peace and is then able to work through us to give us new green growth!   

Love to you all and I would ask for your prayers for our upcoming trip to South Dakota in 10 days.  

Melissa

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Have a great Memorial Day weekend!

Can you believe the year is almost halfway over???  Time seems to fly by these days.  

Want to wish all a safe and happy Memorial Day weekend.   We are headed to Nashville for a couple of days to celebrate Hudson's 2nd birthday and to do a little swimming.   Bring on the sun!


Friday, May 21, 2010

Thursday, May 20, 2010

The Greatest Commandment

28  One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"  29  "The most important one," answered Jesus, "is this: 'Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.30Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.'  31  The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these."   Mark 12: 28-31

Well, folks, it doesn't get much clearer than that.  The greatest commandment of ALL is to love the Lord with all your heart, mind and soul.   After that, we are to love our neighbors (friends, family, all......).  Bottom line - there it is.  The greatest commandment from God to his followers.

Here is my question to you - if you have given your life over to Christ and professed belief in him, are you following this commandment?  Are you loving the Lord with everything you have?   ALL of your heart, mind and soul?   My friends, we are commanded to - it is not a suggestion.   And guess what?  God commands this to us for our own good.  For you see, after giving him ALL of ourselves, we are in a position of humility, love and obedience for him to bless us and show His favor to us.   I encourage you this day, week, weekend, whenever, to go the Lord and confess any areas where you are not loving Him with everything you have.  I know that I need to continually ask the Lord where I can be loving Him more.   Then, let's commit to making some steps to spending more time in His Word and in prayer.   He will take care of the rest.  All we have to do is be willing and He will empower you.  Then we can begin living the abundant life He came to give! 

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

It All Comes Down to Love

I am sure that most of us are probably very familiar with this passage of Scripture, but today I wanted to introduce it out of "The Message". Hopefully, it will stand out to you in a fresh way and define more clearly the love God calls us to.  


   Love never gives up.
   Love cares more for others than for self.
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
   Love doesn't strut,
   Doesn't have a swelled head,
   Doesn't force itself on others,
   Isn't always "me first,"
   Doesn't fly off the handle,
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
   Doesn't revel when others grovel,
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
   Puts up with anything,
   Trusts God always,
   Always looks for the best,
   Never looks back,
   But keeps going to the end.    (from I Corinthians 13)



I know that personally there are a few of these statements about love that I am not living out daily nor truthfully living out in my heart.  Do I really try to "put up with anything"?   Am I pushing forward and "not looking back".   It seems, I struggle the hardest with these things in my marriage and family life.   The people whom I really do love the most don't seem to get these attributes of love shown to them outwardly every day.   


Let's read these words, pray for the Lord to humble us, cleanse our hearts and help us put into action the love the Lord wants us to show to "everyone", yes even when those who are on our very last nerve!  :)     "Lord, I pray that I look deep into the Scriptures for your instruction on how to love people today and Lore, please help me put it into practice.   Amen."





Friday, May 14, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY EMMA!

12 years ago today Miss Emma Elizabeth Brown came into this world.  Happy Birthday to my baby girl!  I am so proud of her and can't wait to see the young lady she becomes.  She is quiet and thoughtful by nature, but very smart and so beautiful.   I am so thankful for her and hope today is the best 12th birthday EVER!   And guess what, she even cleaned her room for 4 hours last night to prepare for her slumber party!  For anyone that knows Emma, that is HUGE!  Way to go girl!


Thursday, May 13, 2010

Pine Ridge Indian Reservation Mission 2010


Our family will be serving this year on Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota. We travel with a group out of people from Indiana, Tennessee and Kentucky. This will be our second year serving and just as we did in 2008 we are raising money for our travel expenses to the Rez and this year also car rental, as Chris' new company vehicle will not accomodate our needs. I have been asked to direct the VBS this year and will be having to carry supplies with me also. If we have any money left over from what we raise (hopefully), we will be leaving that with Pastor John Lovelace to use as winter propane money for the people on the Rez. They suffer very cold winters there. We will be heading out on June 10th for the 20+ hour drive and then returning on the 18th. We ask for your prayers for safe travel, guidance in my VBS role, and that God use our family to plant a seed of faith while we are there.

If you feel led to help us with travel expenses and the cost of the mission trip, please mail any contributions to:

Winchester Cumberland Presybterian Church
200 2nd Avenue NW
Winchester, Tennessee 37398

Note on your check that the contribution is for Brown Family Mission Trip and your donation will be tax deductible.

Our church will also be taking up a love offering on May 23rd.


Here is some information about the community we will be serving (third world country statistics - hidden away in the land of plenty):

* Median income is $2,600 per year with 85% to 95% unemployment
* Infant mortality rate 300% higher than the U.S. national average
* Diabetes and Tuberculosis rates 800% higher t than the U.S. national average
* Elderly die each winter from hypothermia (freezing)
* At least 60% of the homes are severely substandard, without water, electricity, adequate insulation, and sewage systems
* School drop-out rate is 70%
* Recent reports state the average life expectancy is 45 years old while other reports state that it is 48 years old for men and 52 years old for women.
* With either set of figures, that's the shortest life expectancy for any community in the Western Hemisphere outside Haiti, according to The Wall Street Journal.
* And the list goes on and on….

How He Loves Us

I am sitting here with Jacob at my office and he is playing a song called "How He Loves Us" by David Crowder Band. My son is such a blessing to me. Thought I would share....

David Crowder*Band - "How He Loves" OFFICIAL Music Video

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

My Long and Winding Road

Have you ever felt completely at a loss as to where your life was headed? Yeah, me too. As a matter of fact - right now. Right now as I sit and type I have no idea where the Lord is leading me. I am sure that he is calling me out more and more in faith to follow Him to a different place. I know that He is calling me to be used to reach people, but I don't know where that place is. Really, I have no clue. There are several options that have made themselves available and many roads that I could go down, but I don't know which one.


And strangely enough, I am okay with that. There are many things going on in our lives right now with my feelings of going into ministry/missions, etc. and there also many outside circumstances occuring within our spiritual community that leave me confused and doubtful at times. But, I know that I serve an incredible God and that He has a plan. I have so many options ahead of me right now and I am in deep prayer over which way to turn - where He wants me to serve and what is best for my family. And the best thing is that I know He will answer - beyond a shadow of a doubt, I know that.


We are also winding up the school year - Jacob's homeschooling is almost complete, the girls are finishing up a ton of projects and we are anxiously awaiting summer break! We head out to South Dakota on June 10th to serve the people of the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation and then after we return I plan on getting two of my classes finished before we launch into another school year.


Two nights ago, the Lord gave me a Scripture and I will end my post with it. I pray that as we each face our own struggles and/or upcoming decisions, we will think about the wisdom God gives to us to make it through those times.

James 3:17-18 (New Living Translation)

17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.
18 And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.